I’ve learned to stop & identify the motives behind my choices. Why am I posting this, saying that, wearing this, giving that, etc. Truly searching for the heart has helped me gauge my decisions. I’ve also learned to build boundaries & not try to be the hero in every situation. Instead I work to be led by that gut instinct where I’m doing the right things based on the right intentions. Saying NO to the wrong things is saying yes to the right things! Now I’ve learned to pull back & focus on the things I’m SUPPOSED to do.
I heard that people don’t care what you say as much as they are impacted by the way you make them feel. In my own life, I’ve found there is so much truth to that! Words are important, but we also must consider the bigger picture of how our lives are truly impacting others.
It’s easier now than ever before to voice our opinions on every issue & let ourselves get emotionally involved in battles that aren’t even our own. I’m constantly noticing people who are so invested in “winning” every fight, when in reality the fight doesn’t really matter to them all that much. Winning is about being in unity & harmony with those around us. Choosing our battles wisely helps us keep that perspective in check AND helps save our voice for the things that matter most to us.
If we aren’t careful, we can become overly-familiar with other people, ourselves & even the world around us. When we become used to something, we starve it of value & lose sight of how important it is. Let’s work to be conscious of this & fight against it! Anything in our lives can give us inspiration if we let it.
No matter how old you are, what level of success you have reached, regardless of your personality – someone is following you! This blows my mind. Somebody said to me years ago: be careful what you say because people are listening. Let’s remember to take care of ourselves so that when we show up, we have something to offer. Staying inspired & rested helps us to lead from a better vantage point than when we are exhausted. So, whatever it is that you’re working to accomplish, first pull back, recharge, stay up to date on your big picture goals & then show up & give it all you’ve got!
When I’m in the initial creative part of a project, I feel like I’m in a jungle finding my way in the dark. I LOVE & NEED honest perspectives from people who see things differently than I do - but not until the right time. I’ve learned that it helps me when I pull back & ask myself, “Where am I am wanting to go & what is the ultimate goal?” If I know where I’m going, I can lead people better on how to get there.
Keep getting up! Every time you get knocked around by circumstances, remember how important it is to continue to fight! So much monotony can blend the days together & we can easily veg out on Netflix. While that has its place, let’s remember that the greatest ground is gained with daily diligence - so let’s work to make it fun!
The holidays are supposed to be one of the happiest times of the year, yet a lot of pressure & weirdness come through the adrenaline rush of it all. During this holiday season, I am working on not being stressed out about things that are beyond my territory of control. So much joy & freedom comes with letting things go that we can’t fix! Let’s work to trust that life will land as it should & when things don’t happen as we expect, let’s be resilient and bounce back quickly! Things have a way of working out - even if it’s not as we see it!
When we’re really upset about something, it’s easy to find a way to take it out on something else instead of dealing with the actual problem that is getting to us. We will get mad about traffic or laundry or a rude person at the store, when really we have deep issues in our hearts that need to be processed. I want to encourage you to be vulnerable & speak the truth about what is really going on, instead of projecting your problems onto the lesser things in front of you. (And of course we do this in a wise fashion & at the right moments with the appropriate people.)
No matter what is happening around us, we are the ones responsible for the condition of our hearts. When weird people & situations come our way, we can maintain our own peace. Staying in a place of rest & trust not only helps you, but helps everyone around you. Peace is contagious! Let’s operate from it!