When I’m in the initial creative part of a project, I feel like I’m in a jungle finding my way in the dark. I LOVE & NEED honest perspectives from people who see things differently than I do - but not until the right time. I’ve learned that it helps me when I pull back & ask myself, “Where am I am wanting to go & what is the ultimate goal?” If I know where I’m going, I can lead people better on how to get there.
Keep getting up! Every time you get knocked around by circumstances, remember how important it is to continue to fight! So much monotony can blend the days together & we can easily veg out on Netflix. While that has its place, let’s remember that the greatest ground is gained with daily diligence - so let’s work to make it fun!
The holidays are supposed to be one of the happiest times of the year, yet a lot of pressure & weirdness come through the adrenaline rush of it all. During this holiday season, I am working on not being stressed out about things that are beyond my territory of control. So much joy & freedom comes with letting things go that we can’t fix! Let’s work to trust that life will land as it should & when things don’t happen as we expect, let’s be resilient and bounce back quickly! Things have a way of working out - even if it’s not as we see it!
When we’re really upset about something, it’s easy to find a way to take it out on something else instead of dealing with the actual problem that is getting to us. We will get mad about traffic or laundry or a rude person at the store, when really we have deep issues in our hearts that need to be processed. I want to encourage you to be vulnerable & speak the truth about what is really going on, instead of projecting your problems onto the lesser things in front of you. (And of course we do this in a wise fashion & at the right moments with the appropriate people.)
No matter what is happening around us, we are the ones responsible for the condition of our hearts. When weird people & situations come our way, we can maintain our own peace. Staying in a place of rest & trust not only helps you, but helps everyone around you. Peace is contagious! Let’s operate from it!
As the oldest of four siblings, I take great pride in taking care of them as well as other people around me! But we’ve all grown up. They don’t need me like I think they do & I’ve noticed it’s a habit of tending to everyone still. I have learned this can be a strength AND a weakness. I’ve been working for years to establish healthy boundaries in my life & it’s still a daily discipline! There is an art to saying no, both externally & internally. Let’s work to be free of the guilt of others’ expectations on us.
Whenever there’s a backup plan in my mind, it’s easy for me to fall back on it & not give my best in the A-game. To really accomplish the dreams in my heart, I’ve found that it takes a “I’m not going to quit, no matter what” attitude. If I have a plan in my back pocket I just don’t fight for the primary things in my life.
Why do we decide to be toxic about situations? Is it more interesting that way? NO! Let’s have a good attitude! Our lives are just a string of days all paper-clipped together, so why not enjoy them? There is both good & bad in every season of life. Let’s work to focus on the good & make a good attitude our habit.
I’ve noticed a social trend where people will try to force others to like what they like. Why do we do that? What makes life beautiful is how unique & different we all are! It’s one thing to help others be better, but it’s another thing to try to conform people to your will. How weird is that? Life is better when we honor & respect each other & we appreciate the different colors in the crayon box.
I believe in setting up ourselves to succeed. To me that means staying true & being the best version of ourselves. I don’t know of anything that contributes to that goal more powerfully than honest ACCOUNTABILITY. Even though this lifestyle has its uncomfortable conversations, I would have it no other way. I choose the awkward pain of growing over the comfortable life of stagnation any day!!!! I’d rather have a hard conversation & be confronted with blind spots that I need to change, than live my life not knowing I do something weird or annoying! True relationships love each other to the core & fight for each other to really be better.