Being known by someone is a great feeling. It can also be terrifying to be that vulnerable! But if people don’t have access to hurt you, they also don’t have access to love you. I’ve had seasons in my life where I’ve protected myself because I was afraid of getting hurt. But I’ve learned that it’s so special to have someone truly know who you are & what is going on in your heart. It’s worth the effort.
I am a dreamer by nature, but in life I’ve learned how to be a doer and to support my own vision with action! It’s easy to be overwhelmed at first but I’ve figured out that as you break it all down with daily tasks, your weeks and months get you closer to your goals! As we conquer the little things that stand in our way each day, eventually that leads us to where we see ourselves heading.
Allowing people to step into leadership & increase their capacity is necessary to grow the lives around you. This can be a painful process for people who like control, who are micromanagers, or are creatives. It’s also annoying when it’s so much faster to do things yourself. But it is such a joy to watch people grow! I’ve learned as a leader that I am only as good as my team. One of the greatest things we can offer is to create opportunities for people to have a meaningful contribution & to see their hand in building whatever it is that we are working on. There are lots of ways to arrive at the same destination. As we stop micromanaging & start allowing other people to add their part, we end up with a brand new unique set of skills & perspective only they have to offer! Make room in your life for other people to be great!
The first step to getting yourself out of a funk & back on track is visualizing it. If you can see it, you can be it! We all get knocked around, but the speed of your recovery determines so much of your success. A lot of people don’t fight for themselves because it’s too hard. That’s an understandable problem, but if you are determined in your heart & start following that up with action, YOU WILL NOT REGRET IT! A comeback takes belief, strategy & effort but it’s yours for the taking! Let’s do it today!
I choose to make everything a party -- especially facing off with progressing! It's hard enough as it is, might as well make it as enjoyable as possible! What happens when we decide to go for “it” & take the giant leap into the project we’ve been avoiding so we can enter into next part of our lives? I open the door to walk into my progress party & who is there to greet me -- fear, excitement, inspiration, guilt & boredom! They are all participants when we say yes to taking on the next mountain of our lives. I’ve found that in the midst of advancement, fear is a constant companion (in the worst way), inspiration comes & goes & haters like to lurk in the corners feasting on your failure. Do it anyway!
You’d think when we are born that we’d come with an owner’s manual. Humans are this rare & beautiful work of art: part DNA, programmed by our genetic pool & part learned behaviors. Taking care of ourselves seems to be a skill that is rarely taught, hardly caught & usually only comes when we start breaking down. We are responsible for the lives attached to us, so I am challenging you to take your health into your own hands! Be your own advocate. Fight for yourself! Go to the doctor. Keep hunting until you find the right people to get you in the best position with your health! Do it now! You are worth it! Face off with it. It will ultimately give you peace of mind!!! Don’t be like me & SORT OF do it until you have to do it! You are of high value! Lives are connected to you if you know it or not!
It’s so important that we guard our hearts. Things like forgiveness, bitterness, jealousy, fear & strife are all tough to deal with, but they are all crucial issues of the heart. We have to do the hard work of fighting through these in secret so that in public, when you see that person who hurt you or your hear that certain name come up, you can be genuine & smile & really love people without cringing with the reminder of the pain they caused you. We have to keep fighting for ourselves to be clean in the heart because no one can do it for us!
Freedom from hurt is WORTH the hard work of forgiveness! In this episode, Chelsea takes another chapter out of her own life experience & talks about how she’s learned the importance of us doing whatever it takes to keep our hearts right so we don’t act WEIRD! When encounters with different people or things trigger hurt, it’s important to take the time to get to the root of the pain. When we do, it’s actually possible to have a heart free from bitterness, strife, or hurt!
Here are some tips on how to forgive that are covered in this episode:
- Let’s be committed to consistently work through our issues
- Be honest with ourselves: if someone walks in the room & we cringe, we probably have some residual pain & therefore forgiveness issues to work through
- As much as it’s up to us, work to resolve the situation with someone
- It’s hard if the other person doesn’t want to talk about it. But even if we can’t work through it with the other person, we can still do the internal heart work to forgive & move on
- There is more to the story so remember the person who wronged us may also feel we did something weird
- We all have odd behaviors! So let’s work to cover people’s crazy with love
We were all created with equal worth. It’s up to us to recognize & place that value on each other. Everyone needs basic human value, honor, decency & dignity. Let’s get in the habit of treating everyone with love & respect.
So much fear can start to surround things the longer we avoid them. It’s like we get in a trap where we can’t break free but then once we face off with it we see it’s completely irrational! The relief that comes from completing tasks we are avoiding is unmatched. Dismantling these blockages brings true relief that leads to real progress! We are worth more than letting avoidance constantly steal our joy. Give yourself the gift of a breakthrough and face off with your fears!