As the oldest of four siblings, I take great pride in taking care of them as well as other people around me! But we’ve all grown up. They don’t need me like I think they do & I’ve noticed it’s a habit of tending to everyone still. I have learned this can be a strength AND a weakness. I’ve been working for years to establish healthy boundaries in my life & it’s still a daily discipline! There is an art to saying no, both externally & internally. Let’s work to be free of the guilt of others’ expectations on us.
Whenever there’s a backup plan in my mind, it’s easy for me to fall back on it & not give my best in the A-game. To really accomplish the dreams in my heart, I’ve found that it takes a “I’m not going to quit, no matter what” attitude. If I have a plan in my back pocket I just don’t fight for the primary things in my life.
Why do we decide to be toxic about situations? Is it more interesting that way? NO! Let’s have a good attitude! Our lives are just a string of days all paper-clipped together, so why not enjoy them? There is both good & bad in every season of life. Let’s work to focus on the good & make a good attitude our habit.
I’ve noticed a social trend where people will try to force others to like what they like. Why do we do that? What makes life beautiful is how unique & different we all are! It’s one thing to help others be better, but it’s another thing to try to conform people to your will. How weird is that? Life is better when we honor & respect each other & we appreciate the different colors in the crayon box.
I believe in setting up ourselves to succeed. To me that means staying true & being the best version of ourselves. I don’t know of anything that contributes to that goal more powerfully than honest ACCOUNTABILITY. Even though this lifestyle has its uncomfortable conversations, I would have it no other way. I choose the awkward pain of growing over the comfortable life of stagnation any day!!!! I’d rather have a hard conversation & be confronted with blind spots that I need to change, than live my life not knowing I do something weird or annoying! True relationships love each other to the core & fight for each other to really be better.
My ideas used to be very connected to my feelings. What I was contributing to the world creatively was very emotional BUT I have learned my value cannot be found in what I bring. If our self-worth is completely wrapped in the ideas we present, it becomes more about us & how we feel than it does about advancement & progress! Let’s work to find our identity in what TRULY matters so that we can create safe environments where people are free to contribute & change as they go.
Man, life is hard sometimes! I am doing the best I can with what I've got over here & I want to share a few valuable secrets I've learned along the way. There are so many daily habits we can implement to help us navigate life’s troubles & keep a positive outlook. This week I’m downloading some more of my strategies with you! I know we are connected & it's important to fight so we can remain present & have something good to contribute! Let me know what you do for happiness!
Of all the Winnie the Pooh characters, I'm naturally Tigger: happy, excited, buoyant & in love with life! Even though I've had a tendency toward finding the positive, that doesn’t mean I haven’t had my painful seasons! We ALL go through times of darkness which can lead to isolation. BUT when life starts holding us under the water, we can fight our way to the surface! I have a few go-to strategies that I maintain daily to help me survive through those seasons & get back on the SUNNY side of life!
It’s easy to spend SO MUCH time comparing ourselves with others & even ideal versions of ourselves. We think about where we’d be if we had someone else’s life, or if we had taken that one opportunity twenty years ago, but the truth is that no one is exactly where they thought they’d be! We are always in transition from one season of life to the next & each season brings its own set of challenges. I don’t want any of us to waste one more second in regret & worry. Wherever you’re at, whatever you’ve got going, enjoy your season!
When I was younger, I always assumed people would eventually grow out of odd social dynamics, but over time I’ve found out that it takes work! Observing the behaviors of others (& MYSELF!!) has made me want to be better & never stop developing. Let’s work to respond the right way in tough social situations. We can overcome offenses, be vulnerable & push forward – no matter what!